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November 6 - 10, 2017

This Week in Dialogue with the Authors will focus on Positive Aging through the lens of three books. The authors contribute to a growing appreciation of the aging process while challenging the longstanding view of aging as decline. By focusing on the positive aspects of aging, retirement and opportunities in our 8th decade and beyond, these authors explore the availability of resources, skills, and resiliencies. They bring useful insights and stories into the realm of practice but create hope and empower action among older people. By moving beyond the stereotypes of repair and prevention, to emphasize growth-enhancing activities, we can contribute more effectively to the societal reconstruction of aging. These books are great for anyone who is interested, engaged and oriented toward continuing enrichment over the life course.

The Books: ;


Paths to Positive Aging: Dog Days with a Bone and Other Essays, by Mary Gergen & Kenneth Gergen

This book is a treasure trove for erasing the stereotypes that darken the vision of aging, and encountering the passing years as a marvelous gift. It is a persuasive document declaring that we are indeed fortunate to grow old. Reinventing aging is to focus on the gains of aging is to realize that the later years are among the richest and most rewarding of one’s life.


70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade, by Jane Giddan & Ellen Cole

As they turned 70, the authors of 70Candles! Women Thriving in Their 8th Decade set out to investigate how women their age and older were living their lives. They sought role models for themselves and messages for the droves of baby boomers on their heels. They were curious about the challenges and joys of their age-mates, their work and retirement status, living arrangements, family and social connections, and more. This book, informative and inspirational, describes what they found in their reading, their ongoing blog, and 70candles conversation groups held in various parts of the U.S. 


Retiring But Not Shy: Feminist Psychologists Create their Post-Careers, Editors Ellen Cole & Mary Gergen

The stories in RETIRING BUT NOT SHY combine to produce an inspiring, poignant, funny, motivating rich mosaic on the stage of life, “retirement.” Whether these amazing feminist authors are “poised on the diving board,” in “the mid-air plunge,” or in “splash down and re-entry,” they provide very honest, informative personal and professional experiences and insights as they look back, as well as forward. It is a superb discourse on the variety of ways to engage with this stage of life. Readers (women and men, retired or not) will laugh and cry and relate to the humbling parts of life. We can all be inspired to make choices now to have meaningful and rich futures. -- Melba Vasquez, PhD, ABPP

Listen to the recording of the webinar held on Friday, Nov. 10, 2017 - click here.

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  • This is a swell topic and thanks to the resource people. At 80 I am just beginning to think about aging for myself and for my husband. What I like is a realization that slowing down is a good thing! What I'd like to talk about is smart aging.  What is it? What are the guidelines? Are there rules? 

    I appreciate this inquiry and will be following the conversations.


    • HI Marge,

      If you want to join in the webinar on Friday, Nov. 10th at 11:30 AM New York time, you need to pre-register at

      Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: Dialogue with the Authors - Ellen Cole, Mary Gergen, Ja…
      Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: Dialogue with the Authors - Ellen Cole, Mary Gergen, Jane Gidaan on POSITIVE AGING. After registering, yo…
    • Marge hello,

      In response to “slowing down is a good thing,” let me tell you about the lady in front of me at the Post Office yesterday. She was bemoaning the fact that she had been shrinking, was now 4’7”, couldn’t reach kitchen shelves, and pointed out that the man ahead of her was twice her height. She told me she was 83, and as we chatted she said she was slowing down, but that was a good thing, because now she noticed people being kind to each other.....
    • Let's all be older children instead of younger elders or both

  • Thanks for participating in the online conversations Mon. - Thurs. Nov. 6-9. And then to join the webinar on Friday, Nov 10th, at 11:30 AM - 1:00 PM New York time (time change) please register at this link:

    Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: Dialogue with the Authors - Ellen Cole, Mary Gergen, Ja…
    Welcome! You are invited to join a meeting: Dialogue with the Authors - Ellen Cole, Mary Gergen, Jane Gidaan on POSITIVE AGING. After registering, yo…
  • Welcome to our week of discussion and sharing about positive aging. We are so excited. Please register for our  meet-up! See link above.

    • Thank you so much Ellen for joining and leading us in this week of dialogue.

  • Welcome!

    We're looking forward to a lively discussion next week.

    Be sure to register for the Friday webinar with the link above.

    • Thank you Jane for being with us this week and for leading this discussion.

  • I just turned 60 and I'm embarking on a brand-new 20-year career. I'm looking forward to learning from others how to navigate these waters gracefully!

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